I am not sure I get the whole “like you” button on OKC. Though, I think I get the concept. All the dating sites seem to have a similar feature. Match.com has a favorite button and a like button. OKC has the “he likes you” button., Sort of like Tinder does , but with a little more information. and a little more effort than a swipe. It seems to be a good starting point. Hey I like you. Maybe you will like me. Brings me back to 6th grade, where a boy likes you, tells his friend, who then tells your friend, who then tells you that Johnny likes you, you giggle together and exclaim how cute he is, and nothing ever happens.
I receive a “He Likes You” message from a member. I look at his profile, then decide if I will like him back. What now? If I check it out and he seems appealing in some ways, I may hit the ‘I like you button’ as well. Here we go . We are matched up both liking one another. Then what? I have done just that . I have let him know that I too am interested. And nothing. No follow up from him. No message. No interaction. I have also tried, if he has “liked me” , to send a message to him. No problem making the first move. So I write a quick message. Do I expect a response? Yes I do. You went through the effort of looking at my profile, and hitting ‘Like you.’ Here is my main question. You liked me, I am sending you a message, why would you not respond? Did you change your mind? Did you hit the wrong button? Is that a feature similar to Facebook? Where you like a comment or a photo and no one expects anything after that?
In reality, he is just letting me know and moves on. Is it a shyness factor? Or another one for his plus column? I just want to let you know I like you, but I am not willing to do anything about it.
I guess Tinder comes into play again. I have matched a number of guys on there, and nothing. No message to me and no response, whether I decide to send one first, or wait for him to make the first contact. Maybe they are keeping score of how many matches they can get. Tinder I take with a grain of salt anyway. I get the concept, but do you really want to meet someone who doesn’t even put a photo on there? That is all you are going by in the first place. One needs a starting point, don’t they?
And, by the way, there have been times on Tinder, where I would forget, think I am swiping to look at another picture and I hit the nope or Like feature instead! Ooops. Meant to say I like you but I hit NOPE by mistake. I am sure he will come up in another round-up! Of course, accidentally hitting I like you , when you meant to hit NOPE, is worse. Then they may match. And back on the photo topic on Tinder, why does any guy think I, or anyone, would hit LIKE if he has no picture, no information about himself and who is to say even the age is correct? That is a risk I am not willing to Swipe!