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Age is Just a Number

Many a younger man, will explain, or attempt to explain,  that they are very mature for their age.  I have had messages from young men, that said,  I know you are looking at my age, but don’t.  These are , lets say, guys somewhere between 21-29 . But , really,  they insist, don’t pay attention to numbers.  Age is just a number. I have heard that from men in their 30’s and 40’s, as well. Though somehow, I can  accept that much easier from someone who is not younger than my own children! Those are the ones I simply don’t respond to. I did do that once, well maybe twice.   Trying to be nice and polite, I answered one young man, who was 26, and thanked him for the compliments he had given me in his message.  Know  where that got me? Exactly!  He proceeded to do his best to convince me to meet up with him because we would have fun and , don’t forget, age is just a number. So , one more message, thanks but no thanks. At least most listen to their elders.

But many do not, and the messages keep coming. Eventually they get the picture. One time I answered someone who was 37.  His message , in both French and English, ( I think I was supposed to be impressed, but i had to go to Google translate) asked how long I had been in the area. Hadn’t had that one yet. I answered, over 30 years, moved to VA when you were a baby. Do I need to add,  I did not receive a message back?  Some just don’t see the humor in that.

One receives messages through the site from those interested in your profile. Some are quite nice. How are you ? Love your profile, great smile. Hey, I am from NY also  and we have so much in common. But then you have the more blunt, aggressive messages.

Love older women, they know what they want, no games . Wow, a librarian has always been my fantasy. Do you wear glasses? One even threw in Marion the Librarian from the Music Man! Yes he was older, because I am not sure  anyone under 50 would be that familiar with  the show , The  Music Man.

Let’s not leave out the married men .  Very politely, they  asked if I would be interested in a dalliance (my word, not theirs) being they were in an unhappy marriage and we would both benefit. How thoughtful looking out for my well being.

Another grouping are the men traveling to the area from out-of-town. Many a time I am offered an evening out because they will be in town for business. Don’t they have escort services for that?

There is a section where you can go through the list of who viewed you.  As i said earlier, you can see who has viewed you, so think before you click!

I had an African prince, so he claimed, but  the outfit definitely was some sort of  confirmation.  A native American, headdress and all.  Beards, overalls, suits, camouflage, and visuals of fish, dogs, babies, and anything else they think will enhance their desirability. And, a few  I am convinced, were  perfecting their manifestos in a cabin in the woods.


The Fun Begins

Now a few weeks pass by, and I am discouraged with the whole dating thing already. Try Plenty of Fish,  a veteran online dater offered to me. Plenty of Fish i asked? I couldn’t decide if that name was as tacky sounding as I was hearing it, but thought , is it really any worse than some of the others? I decided to research it. This one is a free dating site, so once again i filled out all of the questions, and profiles, added some pictures and voila! i am out there. This site has no age restrictions( there are now age restrictions of a sort which I will discuss in the near future) and now the fun begins. Let me throw in , yet another confession. I am attracted to younger men. Yes, sadly 50 is now considered a younger man given my just over 60 status, but younger is younger.  Doesn’t mean I rule out others, Though, just as a precaution, my daughter gave me a rule- no one near her age or younger. Not to worry i said. You are 35! though really the temptations are out there!

 POF, as we online daters refer to the Plenty of Fish site, has , as i said, all ages. So now I started keeping track. The youngest that I have had contact me is 19. i should say 18, because he was turning 19 in a few months! This boy was in high school. Did his mother know he was on this site, searching for older women ? Mommy issues? Boredom? I didn’t want to ask.  The oldest so far is 82. He was a  very kind, polite gentleman whose message asked if I had an age limit? I never had that question in the older category! It was always in the 18-30 category so I was bit taken aback. I did politely message him back and told him I lean towards my age or younger. He was very polite and didn’t bother me about it.

Again he was not my cup of tea. but as i said, don’t respond if you don’t want to open a can of worms. But he was so polite I felt the need to be polite back. Truly , a man within my age range, will have lots more in common to talk about. Sadly, some of the conversation will turn to which joints are acting up and how much one creaks when getting out of bed in the morning. though,with younger men, you tend to want to hide any creaking parts or ailments that may be presenting themselves that particular week. Though , I do have limitations.  I mean if you don’t know who the Beatles are, or are amazed that i was alive during Woodstock, then maybe we just need not to have a conversation.