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You Are Stupid

Not sure this is something I should be proud of, but for the first time I have been blocked by a user. Some may think that is not a positive thing, but I think it could be.

So, Mr Blocker sent me a message asking how my day is going. “Fine,” I answered. “And yours?”

He responds with, “Here is my number so we can email and text, cos i don’t get on here very often. ”

If this was my first rodeo, I may have had a fleeting thought to respond. But I wrote back, yes, in my haste, “Stop scamming people with these lines and get off this dating site”. I also told him I had seen this line too many times to count, Especially with “cos” being used, not to mention ‘I am not on here too often.’

Heard back a few days later and he told me “You are stupid. You will be single forever and will never meet anyone. You are stupid. “

Was that a curse he put on me? I didn’t feel any different. Do you feel a curse when it is cast? We will have to wait to see if it holds.  I could tell him I have been single longer than I was married, but, wait, I can’t!

 

Call me stupid once, but not twice.  Of course I had a comeback, but I WAS BLOCKED. And I became indignant. How dare he not let me get my last 2 cents in! But I had more to say. I did type them, but then I got the fateful message BLOCKED. You see, the main problem was, that I was going to write one last thing and then block him. He beat me to it.

block

Of course, I then second guessed myself. Was he legit? Was I hasty in assuming he was another scammer? I guess I will never know, but I am OK with it. But I still wish I could say just one more thing.

 

HACKED UPDATE

So maybe I jumped the gun. I felt violated when my profile was hacked on Plenty of fish. But now, it seems POF has come through….basically.  Though,  I still have not heard from them at all,  my sister, who has a profile on POF, emailed them on my behalf, explaining my hacked situation. She received an email including a sort of apology. More like ,”sorry for the inconvenience, “ but it is something. And they removed the Hacked profile under my user name on the dating site. She confirmed this but going onto the site and searching for my profile name, and it is gone! It took just a week, but they did it.

I do think their customer service options need major improvement, but I am glad they did something positive and took care of this issue. I wish I could find out the why and how of this hacking job, but I have to let it go. I can only speculate.

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On the same note,  I have emailed OKCupid about bogus/scam emails, and they have removed those users within 5 minutes. Maybe I was spoiled. Though wouldn’t it be nice if we never had to email them at all. Just a dream.

I’ll Come Back For You

A message arrives in my inbox of one of the dating sites. Without preamble, he proceeds to tell me how absolutely wonderful I am and that I should just email or text him. So as per usual, I asked if we could just chat on the site and he agreed without any argument.  He mentioned he lived in Colorado and was here for business. Hmmm, why put this area on your profile if you are here for a week? Alarm bell going off?… yep.

One evening a couple of nights later, I decided to text him. I don’t know why, I just did. Part bored and the other part  I confess , he was fairly good looking and caught my eye.  Yes I am well aware that maybe it was not his picture! He answered right away and mentioned that he was so glad to hear from me but he was leaving the next day. ( dont be shocked) OOOps there goes another alarm bell.  A small one.

I ask “How long have you lived in Denver?”

“5 years”, he says 

“What made you move there?”

He says, “I needed a change of scenery. I used to live in Illinois.”

I played on. “Oh why is that?”

“My wife and mother were killed in a car crash 5 years ago.”

My initial reaction was, oh my god. how awful. But, ten seconds later, cynicism took over.  I didn’t buy it. I felt bad thinking, really? Both of them? Sure it could have happened, but, the dating site reputation rears its ugly head, skepticism! 

“Sorry to hear that. I didnt want to pry, “ I answered .

He says , “Don’t worry. Ask me anything.” 

We chatted some more  and he says  “I may be going back west, but I will come back for you.”  Don’t ask me why , but I let that one slide,  thinking, WHAT?!

Next day , he texts me in the morning that he is waiting for his flight.

Afternoon text tells me he is safely home. I responded with “ good that you are home.”

Next morning, 8:30 EST, I get a text “good morning”. Suzie skeptical here, I said, “you are up early.” ( 2 hours difference)

He then says, well I couldn’t wait to check on you and see how you were.” SMALL ALARM # 3!!

I quickly mentioned that we hadn’t even met.  I truly have a hard time believing someone can be so madly in love with me after 2 text messages. Wait, I mean of course they can be madly in love with me after 2 texts. But, then I remembered I am also a cynic. One really doesn’t know who is BSing and who isn’t. Well, usually you have a good idea of who is BSing, but I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. I have had many a guy lie about where he is and what he does etc, especially what he looks like.

I explained, just that. I said, “I have had guys lie about personal information and have fake pictures, so I tend to be wary.” He shoots back a text and says “ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR?”

Whoa, don’t take it personally. I am merely explaining, though the thought had been planted. In the meantime, I go back to the site and TRY to open his profile, and guess what? It is gone! Anyone hear that alarm going off again? He then writes, “I don’t want to continue this anymore.”

  Damn, I wanted to say that line! I write back, “your choice, but for the record, after 2 texts you were already coming back to get me and by the way, your profile is gone. Do the math.”

PART 3: WOULD YOU REPEAT THAT

I don’t know how someone can write this much and not say anything. And hurry! This offer only lasts until his subscription runs out, which by the way is…….today!

We have a captain and a major- yeah right! I’m a little disappointed that they left out damsel and queen, though I am still trustworthy and honest. I think they grabbed a romance novel and and looked for adjectives. I have not changed spelling , punctuation  or the use of multiple adjectives.  And really, I think the copying and pasting is getting out of control. 

Here we go again.

1. How are you? I found your profile interesting. So, I thought I would e-mail you.(lol) How have you been making out with this whole on line dating thing.Am NXXX Parker presently in Afghanistan for peace keeping… Have you met anyone yet? I would like to meet that person who is genuine, lovable, has a sense of humor, will tolerate my oddities and is spontaneous. She should not be afraid of holding hands and showing love when it is appropriate and should be able to be spontaneous and get me out of my shell. if you care and you know you could be the right woman for me, email me on my regular address at majornXXXXXparkass101@Y..a..h..o..o..c..o..m ) and tell me more about yourself, I repeat ( majornXXXXXparkass101@Y..a..h..o..o..c..o..m ) make sure you remove the dot(..) after each letter before sending message to me on that address. Please write to me there and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

Hope you have an amazing day.

2. Hello Beautiful,

Your profile is marvelous you look so Beautiful?How are u doing today and your family?My name is Timothy XXXXXXX and just came across your profile and i like everything you said on there. I am a very passionate and reliable man who is searching for true love,honesty and reliable woman,I’m Self employed…I am balanced, calm, reasonable and caring person. I’m polite and I like people who can communicate in the same way. am sure that personal happiness depends on our deeds and choices. I always valued honesty, punctuality and reliability..Am right here searching so a soul-mate but i wanna start being a friend at first. Distance and age is not a problem to me, i can travel or live anywhere just to be with the right woman.i will be glad if we can communicate at my personal business email which is (timothyXXXXXX@aol.com) ..if you are interested to know

If you can make me laugh and get my sense of humor well certainly get along!A woman who has drive and direction in their life is very attractive and I will embrace who you are. At the end of the day if you think about it we all want the same thing which is companionship and the feeling that were important and loved in someone else eyes. So if there is any interest let me know and no disrespect if there isn’t…We never know who were gonna meet! Before i forget,my subscription ends today and if you want us to continue and exchange more pictures of ourselves,i would prefer you send me a text message on 301 XXX 7XX5 How are you doing at the moment ? I hope that you had a very pleasant night rest..? Its my utmost pleasure getting to write you on here and its going to be a sin for me not getting to appreciate the true beauty that God invested on you.. I would really want us to be friends though i know that we are having a little distance but i would want you to know that distance doesn’t matter in a relationship, What really matters is the feelings that we gonna get for each other and true love lays within the heart.. I would want us to be able to keep the communication going so that we can see if we are both compatible with each other.. So tell me about yourself if you don’t mind me asking ? You can feel free to drop me your address so that i can send you some couple of my pictures and you can also get to write me on captainXXXXsmith201 at (y) . (com)… I will be looking forward reading from you.. Do have a blessed day out there ..

Its my utmost pleasure getting to write you on here and its going to be a sin for me not to acknowledge the true beauty that God invested in you.. I would really want us to be friends so that we can get to know each other more better and then get to see where its going to lead us towards.. I am here looking for that woman that we are going to start something from being friends at first and then getting to see if we are compatible.. I don’t think that the age differences and the distance is going to be something to bother about.. What really matters is what we feel for each other and i would want to let you know that love builds bridges when there is none and i would want us to be able to take that step in getting to know each other and then get to see what happens next.. You can feel free to write me on captainXXXXXsmith201 at (y) . (com) and let’s just get to know each other more better… I will be looking forward reading from you, Do have a nice day and stay blessed

How are you doing at the moment ? I hope that you had a very pleasant night rest..? Its my utmost pleasure getting to write you on here and its going to be a sin for me not getting to appreciate the true beauty that God invested on you.. I would really want us to be friends though i know that we are having a little distance but i would want you to know that distance doesn’t matter in a relationship, What really matters is the feelings that we gonna get for each other and true love lays within the heart.. I would want us to be able to keep the communication going so that we can see if we are both compatible with each other.. So tell me about yourself if you don’t mind me asking ? You can feel free to drop me your address so that i can send you some couple of my pictures and you can also get to write me on captainXXXXsmith201 at (y) . (com)… I will be looking forward reading from you.. Do have a blessed day out there ..

3.  Hello,

Thought I would give this a last try and see what happens. I’m interested in you and i want to see if we can connect. I normally can tell right away if I click with someone. Similarities and differences are both great but I like a woman to be a woman and allow me to be the man.I like looking nice and hopefully you can alternatively email me rXXXXs@yahoo.com

Hope to hear from you soon.

4. Hello there?

Good morning .Am glad and happy to meet all you and How are you doing today? Im david new on here,just found you very interesting after reading your profile now with keen interest and Just thought I could drop you this quick line by introducing my self well to you and would love the chance to get to know you more from here? I much confess to you, I really enjoyed reading your profile and you sounds like we both looking for the same thing in common.I am very kind happy person with my life right now but know there is a piece missing, maybe that piece is what I would like to call a partner.I have experienced the ups and downs of living and will not compromise on what I am looking for. One more thing,I appreciate a good sense of humor. Go ahead–“make me laugh”! Hope you do care for quick chat from here? I will very much like if you could get intoudh with me at.davidXXXX98@yahoocom////.. A strong, handsome, Jesus loving, caring, ambitious, kind, adventurous, creative man who loves children, the outdoors and has an amazing sense of humor. 1 Samuel 16:18.Thank you and wish you a Wonderful day ahead!!

Hugs!

PART 2 : WOULD YOU REPEAT THAT

Let’s see, angles with one wing. Poetic or would that be poetic BS?  Praiseworthy and trustworthy?  Not sure I like one of these as my title. Doesn’t have the pizazz that Queen or Damsel does. And watch out for that pesky son who is changing his fathers profile on these sites! And why does one need to know if I am good with my hands? Is it any wonder I am still searching?

 

And it continues:

 

1. Hello Dear

I am new to this online thing so please bear with me. I just wanted to drop you a line to let you know that I am interested in getting to know more about you after reading your profile. Do you know that men and women are angels created with only one wing? And they need to embrace each other to be able to fly… I Hope to find my angel whom i can fly with forever.I guarantee that I am a nice Man and know how to treat a woman.I have a good sense of humor.my son got me on here and mess up with my profile, i do believe age and distance is not a barrier in relationship,i will like to know more about you and i will be glad if you can write me to my email ( xxxxx232@gmail.com or xxxxx232 at gmail dot com ) so i can send you some more pics and more about me overthere and you can also send me your email

 

2. Hello Pretty lady how are you doing today and how is your evening going ? Am intrigued to meet an interesting profile like yours. I enjoy knowing more so taking a task to write you this note. Well i have read your profile and sounds satisfactory to me.Anyway how long have you been on the site.Are you communicating with other matches.I would be glad if we can take a try in learning each other. I don’t visit the site often and would love to communicate Via mail.Are you comfortable sharing your personal email with me or send me an email on xxxxx123443@yahoo.com or you can text me on (xxx) 8xx-xxxx and i will get back to you as soon as possible.That’s okay now.speak soon.

 

3. Hello Praiseworthy,

I’m Manuel, an honest,affectionate, easy going, open minded, financially secure, above average man. I like the simpler things in life like slow dancing, and reading, as well as long walks/drives, or just spending quality time with that special someone.  I love jazz and contemporary music. My ideal woman knows what she wants in life, someone who hasn’t lost the dream. Are you fun and have a good sense of humor? Are you adventurous, available, and good with your hands? Write to me (wink is fine) and let’s chat to meet for a cup of coffee.

E-MAIL: XXXXX@Gmail.com

MESSENGER? XXXXX@yahoo.com

SMS/CALL: 435 XXX XXXX.

Please note that if you’re intentions are the “casual/no commitment” or “nothing serious,” please save the time of not writing me. I’m not interested in a fling, I long to find something sentimental, meaningful, and long lasting.

 

4. Hi Trustworthy,

Wow awesome profile, stopped me in my tracks.

 

5. Hello charming angel How are you doing today hope fine?

Well i was practically in search of woman to love and share my whole life with when i ran into your profile You look so lovely,charming and irresistible and i would love to know you more and better please , I want to be your best friend and something more… Am searching for a woman to love and grow old with can you be that special woman of my dream ? Please tell me more about your self and something about your kind of man .

 

6. It’s very lovely to come across your glamorous profile of yours this splendid day and i hope all is well with you? I have been enchanted by your interesting profile of yours and i want to use this opportunity to express my self for you and to know much more about each other.I guess the best way to describe myself is that I’m a nice man who is considerate and respectful other people’s feelings. I am compassionate,honest,loyal,trustworthy,faithful, a great listener,a christian I think this all for now and i will be very grateful if you can we can exchange emails which is XXXXX53@ymail.com o r text me on (XXX) 9XX-8XXX. If anything you can please check on my profile and get back to me, Have a wonderful day and stay bless.Hope to hear from you soon.

 

7. Wow, is my great pleasure to write you after viewing your profile. We do not know each other well but I will really like to have you as a friend if that is better for you of which l strongly believed that close friends can lead to marriage and ever relationship, i will make you smile 3 times a day.You can write me on my email address.

 

8. Hello How are you doing? I went through your profile and have found it very fascinating. So special! Your personality, your interests, your looks. We will get along really well i think. I will love to chat you and get to know you more better email me on XXXXX@yahoo.com ….Hope to read from you soon