Your confidence builds. You are feeling good about yourself. Thinking, I am looking pretty good these days and you have a good feeling all around. You even think it is safe to enter the dating scene. So you accept a date.
One Tuesday I received a pleasant message. Spoke about our common interests and background. Thought he was a bit stiff, didn’t seem to have a light attitude or joke much, but I thought, ok, this is online. Chill out, give him a break. We set up to meet the following Tuesday, though he did ask at first if I was free the next evening, Wednesday night. “Sorry,” I said, “but I have plans.” ( I really did.)
We talked on the site for a few days, and one evening wrote that he was looking forward to meeting. I concurred and said it will be fun. He said he was going to NY to see his mom over the weekend. ( I had to assume he was telling the truth, I try not to be cynical every time) Very briefly on the friday of that weekend we spoke and then ended with we will chat before Tuesday.
Monday comes and no word. Yep, my wonderful, reliable gut was kicking in again. I did not have a good feeling about this. I sent him a message on the dating site and said “hi. just wanted to be sure we were still meeting up on tuesday.” I don’t feel comfortable having a plan for a week and not have confirmation. Nothing. The next morning, which was the Tuesday of our “date”, he sends me a message that says, “I’m very sorry, but I’ve decided not to meet. Best of luck in your search for love, peace and happiness.”
I was so annoyed. I wrote back and said “Wow nice of you to let me know before today.”
I didn’t ask why, though I really wanted to know the reasoning behind it. So many to choose from. He simply changed his mind, Maybe he met someone else and wanted to focus on her. Maybe he is simply a jerk. I admit, he tried to write it nicely, but it was not sitting well. I was insulted that he changed his mind. I do think it is merely frustration and /or annoyance that no matter what, I can’t seem to meet someone for a mere drink!
This guy was even in my age group. If nothing else I am giving myself points for that! He is in my decade! Could be a first. I have gone out with some very close to my decade, just short a few years. But I have realized that same decade or not, it doesn’t matter.
Sometimes you can read an article and think, “Do they know me? Did they peek into my dating world and get some ideas? This one is about being single and frustrated. How timely! I will take a wild guess and say I am not the only one, male or female, who at times, feel this way. I have had toxic relationships. Do I repeat the pattern? Do I pick the wrong men? I think, unless your dating life is perfect, one of these may hit home for you, If not, consider yourself lucky and not single and frustrated.