Age is only a number. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard that phrase. Mostly from younger men, pretty much telling me not to worry about how young they are!
I was talking to a guy on OKC, who decided not to reveal his age . At least not right away. He said he really didn’t like the age question on the dating sites. Why restrict yourself? “why do people care?” he asked me. I replied it was mostly a preference, but I am a curious type and I like to know.
“Why? is it important?” he wanted to know.
“Yes , I think it is. To a point. “ I told him.
He asked, “What if you really like talking to the guy and want to meet. What if he is 22 and has a great job, and an advanced degree, and is an all around great guy? “ Now I looked at his photos again, to make sure I did not think this one was 22!
I do feel technically it shouldn’t matter, but as nice as he could be , I would not feel comfortable about dating someone younger than all of my own children! I think an age gap is a personal preference. and is limited to what works for the individual. On the same note, I wouldn’t feel comfortable dating someone my Dad’s age either. I think one sets their own limits to what is their comfort zone.
I know plenty of people who marry or date someone with maybe a 15-20 years age difference. Personally, a 35-40 year age difference would bother me. He wouldn’t know ,unless from books or an older aunt or uncle, about anything I have lived through. Even his parents would be younger than i am! that would really upset my comfort zone.
He also asked me if i thought it was a judgment problem. Did I worry that people would judge me? I admitted judgment is a factor to a certain degree, but i think I would end up judging myself as well. If I know I am not comfortable with it, I just won’t do it.
I went online to see what was out there, and sure enough, there is a site for ageless dating!
This could open up one’s outlook on not getting caught up the “age discussion”. Or, more likely, for me, at least, open up that can of worms I try to avoid.
But, the thing that baffles me , is ,when you go under search, the first box you are supposed to fill out, is AGE! They want a range. I haven’t done it yet. But for research purposes, I just may have to for my fellow daters. What a trooper!