A message arrives in my inbox of one of the dating sites. Without preamble, he proceeds to tell me how absolutely wonderful I am and that I should just email or text him. So as per usual, I asked if we could just chat on the site and he agreed without any argument. He mentioned he lived in Colorado and was here for business. Hmmm, why put this area on your profile if you are here for a week? Alarm bell going off?… yep.
One evening a couple of nights later, I decided to text him. I don’t know why, I just did. Part bored and the other part I confess , he was fairly good looking and caught my eye. Yes I am well aware that maybe it was not his picture! He answered right away and mentioned that he was so glad to hear from me but he was leaving the next day. ( dont be shocked) OOOps there goes another alarm bell. A small one.
I ask “How long have you lived in Denver?”
“5 years”, he says
“What made you move there?”
He says, “I needed a change of scenery. I used to live in Illinois.”
I played on. “Oh why is that?”
“My wife and mother were killed in a car crash 5 years ago.”
My initial reaction was, oh my god. how awful. But, ten seconds later, cynicism took over. I didn’t buy it. I felt bad thinking, really? Both of them? Sure it could have happened, but, the dating site reputation rears its ugly head, skepticism!
“Sorry to hear that. I didnt want to pry, “ I answered .
He says , “Don’t worry. Ask me anything.”
We chatted some more and he says “I may be going back west, but I will come back for you.” Don’t ask me why , but I let that one slide, thinking, WHAT?!
Next day , he texts me in the morning that he is waiting for his flight.
Afternoon text tells me he is safely home. I responded with “ good that you are home.”
Next morning, 8:30 EST, I get a text “good morning”. Suzie skeptical here, I said, “you are up early.” ( 2 hours difference)
He then says, well I couldn’t wait to check on you and see how you were.” SMALL ALARM # 3!!
I quickly mentioned that we hadn’t even met. I truly have a hard time believing someone can be so madly in love with me after 2 text messages. Wait, I mean of course they can be madly in love with me after 2 texts. But, then I remembered I am also a cynic. One really doesn’t know who is BSing and who isn’t. Well, usually you have a good idea of who is BSing, but I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. I have had many a guy lie about where he is and what he does etc, especially what he looks like.
I explained, just that. I said, “I have had guys lie about personal information and have fake pictures, so I tend to be wary.” He shoots back a text and says “ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR?”
Whoa, don’t take it personally. I am merely explaining, though the thought had been planted. In the meantime, I go back to the site and TRY to open his profile, and guess what? It is gone! Anyone hear that alarm going off again? He then writes, “I don’t want to continue this anymore.”
Damn, I wanted to say that line! I write back, “your choice, but for the record, after 2 texts you were already coming back to get me and by the way, your profile is gone. Do the math.”